Born to love, cursed to feel.

“Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be with them”

Understand how a man’s mind works. He knows you’re a good girl, he knows you’ll love him right but you’re just not the ONE. Not for him (to be exact). Or he just doesn’t want to settle down. Maybe you’d be the one 5 years down the line, but not right now? You’re not. No amount of love, sex nor favours is going to change that. You can’t blame him for it. He ain’t doing nothing wrong. He just doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you. You feel how you feel because you’re all up in your feelings and you do want to be with him. You probably decided to give him relationship benefits without being in a relationship. And that’s the problem.

He didn’t force you to give them to him. You chose to without making sure he wanted the same thing or thinking you can make him fall in love with you and make him see your value. The thing is… you can’t.

He knows what you bring to the table. You could be the perfect woman for a man who is ready to settle down but him? He still wouldn’t want a relationship with you. Because that’s one what he wants.

Move on. You can’t convince him. Don’t stay hoping that he’ll see your worth, because he won’t. Understand the situation. He likes you. He knows the type of girl you are. But he doesn’t want to be with you. If you give him all those benefits he’ll gladly take them. Why not? But he isn’t looking to get with you and if you keep on hoping he will, you’re only going to end up hurting yourself. Find someone who’re ready for what you want. Commitment. A future. Not someone who just wants fun.

Last but not least, you can’t expect a man to be true to you when he’s not even true to himself…

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Basically, this applies to all males and females. Life is not going to be fair. Life is going to hurt you. Life is going to put you through unimaginable shit but at the end of the day, you have to look life in the face and say f*ck you, I own you. I am in control of my own destiny and I am going to get what I want out of you. I am going to live a life of my own choosing. I am going to grab you by the neck and steer you in the direction I choose to take. I am going to live my life how I want to live it. Regardless of my circumstances.

F.R